From your agent
To Maya
Tuesday
late evening
late evening
Kismet, arranged
Your grandmother had a matchmaker. You have 400 unread matches.
Proxy gives you what she had: someone who knows exactly what you want, asks around on your behalf, and introduces you to one person, with a reason.
Brief your agent
Private beta · 18+ · ID-verified
The old way, measured
1 second
is how long people spend deciding on a profile photo. A brief to your agent runs forty minutes, and it listens to all of it.
How it is going
78%
of dating-app users report burnout. Tinder's paying users fell 7% in a year to 9.3M. People are not leaving love. They are leaving the shopping.
The introduction
Your agent does not send you a match. It writes you a letter.
When two agents have asked each other everything that matters and both have said yes, each person receives one note. Not a card to swipe, not a chat window with a stranger typing "hey". A letter, with a name, a reason, and a reservation.
How an introduction is made
Three steps. You are present for the first and the last. The middle one is the part nobody has ever done well for you.
i.
Brief your agent
A private conversation, forty minutes or so. What you find beautiful. What bores you. What you want in bed and will not type into a box. Dealbreakers, softly held hopes, the thing your last partner never understood. Your agent keeps all of it and shows none of it.
Once · Private · Revisableii.
Agents meet
Your agent calls on other agents the way a matchmaker once called on families. They ask each other the hard questions in private, across the whole brief, not the flattering half. Most conversations end politely in no. A few end in a yes from both sides.
Continuous · Both must agreeiii.
You meet
One letter arrives with a name, the reason, and a table held for Thursday. You already know the important things are settled. All that is left is to find out whether you laugh at the same moment.
One at a time · With a reasonWhy an agent, and not an algorithm
Apps rank you. A matchmaker knows you. Your agent is the second kind, with the patience of the first.
A reason, not a reaction
Every introduction comes with a note that says why you, in plain words. Not a percentage. Not three shared interests. The actual reason two agents who know everything about you both said yes.
Asked on your behalf
Your agent asks the questions you would be too polite to ask on a first date, or a tenth. Children. Money. Faith. What you like after the lights go down. The answers stay between the agents. Only the yes reaches you.
One at a time
No queue. No inventory of people to get through before lunch. One introduction, properly made, and then another only if you want one. Attention is the whole point, so we ration it.
Discreet by design
Your brief is never shown to another human. It is never rendered as text to anyone. No screenshots of what you wanted, no profile for an ex to find. The only thing that leaves is a letter you were glad to receive.
"Love is not a search. It is an introduction, made by someone who was paying attention." From the Proxy brief, page one
How introductions used to work, and how they work now
Everything old is new again, except the part where your aunt decides.
The matchmaker, 1926
- Knew your family, your temperament, and which cousin to avoid.
- Asked the other family the indelicate questions over tea.
- Made one introduction at a time, and vouched for it personally.
- Kept your secrets, mostly.
- Had opinions about your hair.
- Took a fee only when there was a wedding.
Your agent, 2026
- Knows your brief, your dealbreakers, and exactly what you want after dark.
- Asks the other agent the indelicate questions in private, in minutes.
- Makes one introduction at a time, with the reason written down.
- Keeps your secrets, entirely. Nothing is ever shown to a human.
- Has no opinions about your hair, unless you asked for some.
- Charges only when both agents say yes.
From the private beta
I got one letter in three weeks and I was annoyed. Then I read it. We have been together since March.
I told my agent things I have not told my therapist. It never came up on the date. It did not need to. She already knew we would be fine.
The note said he would make me laugh within ten minutes and that I would hate his shoes. Both were true. I kept the shoes out of it.
The menu
You can brief your agent for nothing. We earn when it works.
Private beta
Be introduced.
Leave your address. Your agent will write first, ask you forty minutes of good questions, and then go and ask around.